Somatic sex and intimacy coaching combines the inner, felt awareness of the body with the scientific study of human sexuality. It is grounded in counter-normative understandings of gender, sex, sexuality, and relationships. I am a certified sexological bodyworker. This means that besides somatic sex- and intimacy coaching our work together may include touch. Sexological bodywork is a gentle, body-centered approach to explore your desires, resolve concerns, and learn new skills. It allows you to learn experimentally, through the body, where (self)touch is an option, never a requirement. Touch is always directed one way: from me to you, and only at your request. All touch is solely for the purpose of your learning and personal growth, with full respect for your boundaries

To feel connected with ourselves and with others, we must feel safe. To create a sense of safety and connection, we start with consent. Through embodied consent, we learn to become more sexually safe for ourselves and others. Our sessions together provide a clear container for you to learn and to discover these skills. There will be lots of time to practice and to be clunky and playful, without pressure or expectations. You learn how to notice, trust, and honor your desires and boundaries and how to communicate them to others.

Extensive research on the science of touch has documented incredible emotional, mental, and physical benefits from touch, suggesting it is truly fundamental to human communication, bonding, and health. Touch can create an instant change in our physiological state, including our nervous system, which directly influences the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us. Touch is our primary language and our first way of communicating with our caregivers and the outside world. It directly relates to our sense of self. Through present, conscious touch, we can connect to our wordless places, making it a potentially powerful tool for healing. Having the experience of receiving only the touch you wanted and asked for, nothing more and nothing less, can be very profound.

Pleasure and arousal are welcome in sexological bodywork. We make space for them in a shame-free environment. You practice listening to your body’s sensations and identifying, voicing, asking for, and receiving the kind of touch you truly desire.

Practices may include body-scans, breathing exercises, nervous system regulation, body-focusing, working with boundaries and the wheel of consent, bodywork, pleasure- or anatomical mapping, bossy- massage and scar tissue remediation.